I’m 61; a grandfather as well as father. I have a small business in Edinburgh, offering financial education and guidance to people wanting to self-manage their own long-term financial health. It’s not work I set out to do; but that’s the way it has taken shape over 30 years. I feel useful doing it, so also happy. I’ve no desire to stop work.
After I took MKP’s foundation training in 2012, I was invited to become a director; to help out with managing the finances. MKP was at that time a not-for-profit limited company. In 2016 the voting members chose to accept charity status (CIO), and I stood down when trustees took over the governance. Eager still to contribute, I ran the Enrolment function for two years.
Feeling ready for another change, I chose in 2019 to stand as a trustee. The Treasurer’s work isn’t popular, but someone has to do it. My deeper interest is to develop a way to let members know of all the volunteer tasks and skills MKP needs; to identify potential candidates, encourage them to step into roles they’d enjoy and MKP would value.
Why MKP Is significant To Me?
Via my upbringing, education and military training; by the age of 30 I’d become pickled in attitudes and behaviour I now judge were patriarchal. Striving and experimenting through the next 24 years to ‘be successful', I judge I became long-term mentally unwell, and in denial of it. Stuck in what from here looks like self-righteous victimhood, I had the good fortune to encounter a man who saw my inner distress, and pointed me towards The ManKind Project.
Imagining I have a third of my life left; I intend to live it more consciously than I did the previous two. Among other pillars of my health and wellbeing, the regular peer-support in which I participate with local MKP men is vital.